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Rip Kenny

Discussion in 'In Memorium' started by silvertonebetty, Mar 21, 2019.

  1. silvertonebetty


    Jan 4, 2015
    Now I haven’t posted about this mainly because I have had a hard time with it.
    It’s been a few months now actually it was just after Christmas. Now were to start ?

    It is funny what and who will come into your life. The impact Kenny has made for me I can’t fully describe. I didn’t know Kenny vary well at first but he turned my whole world upside down and back over and really was the final key to fixing something I was struggling with for many years it’s like a weight was lifted of my shoulders.

    I met Kenny about two years ago . He was man the age of 57 ,a man that had a long tough run in life and lots of stories to tell . He quickly became one of my closest friends we would hang out almost every if he didn’t show up I would call to make sure he was alright .
    Kenny was the father of three girls two lived out west and the youngest I went to school with . When I first met Kenny he was slowly making his way up the stairs with his oxygen tanks . The always made a click ,clank ,click when going up the stairs and I do miss that . He looks at me and says “young boy do you do drugs?” And I truthfully said “no” and he said “ dong start this is what cocaine does to you” he starts to explain the struggles he went through growing up and how it lead him to the point of doing time for selling cocaine . The destruction of his family but through it he was always happy and took what he learned from it and never got caught up in the past . One of the things I miss the most were the daily words of encouragement I must admit life has felt a little down from them but things are looking better.

    One day at our day program he tells us his daughter was going to join us for lunch. To my horror a girl from my past showed up and I wanted to leave then and there . See me and his daughter and a few others got into this huge fight over something stupid and I was stressed enough and wouldn’t talk about my problems and I ended up blowing up like a major freak out I just couldn’t take it anymore and it ended word said from all of us that none of us can take back and for years I wanted nothing to do with them . But what do you know I stayed and had lunch and His daughter told Kenny that we all ready knew each other.
    As the time goes on he bring up her friend let’s call her “Barbra “ now I was stunned to hear of Barbra I was well head over heals for her and let’s say it didn’t end well. Over time his daughter would show up and we eventually started talking again . I have tried to talk to “Barbra “ but like I said you can’t take back words it was a hard lesson but one I guess I needed to learn .

    Kenny had found out that I liked guitars and lived the fact that I was building a telecaster . He was right in there he offered advice and good input for the project . We were going to think of doing an acoustic build this year but I have been putting it aside because it was something I know he would of loved to see and it won’t be the same .

    Kenny comes up to me one day and said “ my daughter got a new phone so I got he old one can you help me figure it out”. I should him how to run it but then he said “ can you ask my oldest for a picture of her youngest I haven’t seen her yet” I never thought a simple picture could mean so much but I do now having a four month old niece I can’t get enough pictures .
    As time went on Kenny and I got kind of a father and son relationship going . We would look out for each other .
    Kenny really was a special fella . He always wanted to help . Those girls were so blessed to have a father like Kenny . He wasn’t perfect but he would drop everything for them girls. They were his everything. He loved spending time with his grand son . He’s such a good little boy . Kenny was a huge patriots fan . Them being his home team after all . He would hangout with us during our late nights .lol time we had a potluck and he said with such joy that he could help with something “ Jared I brought cookies and pie if there isn’t enough “ but before lunch he had the pie completely gone . He looked up and said “ I could help it I took a bite and it was so good “ I just laughed I didn’t know that it would be one of last days with him. I ended running into his youngest daughter fairly often at this point and a new friendship had started and I’m truly an grateful she has been a huge support the last little bit. The last couple days I have seen he wasn’t feeling well and we thought his oxygen was just running low. But I guess we were wrong he didn’t come to the program one day and we didn’t think much about. We just thought he was sick . The next morning I awoke to find the horrible news that Kenny had passed away . I still don’t know why I was the first to know . He died on the day his two oldest were supposed to come for their Christmas vacation.
    I am proud of what Kenny did he got off morphine for about two weeks before he passed so he was 100% clean . What great accomplishment for any one . I ended up being a pallbearer for one of the greatest men I’ve ever had the chance to meet. It still seems quiet and lonesome at times with out the click,Clank,click of the oxygen tanks.

    And as for his daughter she’s slowly is getting her life back and she is really up lifting like here father . Actually a couple weeks ago I was really freaking out mentally and obsessing over “what is I drive them (my friends) away” then I thought of his daughter and it was like “I made life for her and (Barbra )almost a living hell with my constant paranoia but she’s still here “ I’m just feel kind of stupid not realizing what I had . We have a great picture of Kenny at our program of him holding a sign up saying “ clubhouse saved my life” with a grin from ear to ear . And like I said I am grateful for Kenny and what he had done for me . The joy of knowing I have a “real friend”standing behind me and is willing to help even if it’s just listening . Thanks to your guys here and you suggestions and the help of her and few others I have been basically Anxiety free for two weeks now . Got a little worked up Monday but got talked out of the state before it got overwhelming. [​IMG][/IMG] I would like to say now since I got out everything I can think of I’d like to properly say good bye. To a man I know I won’t be able to forget. And I’m sure someday I will see him again but he won’t need them old oxygen tanks.

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  2. Mooh

    Mooh Gold Member

    Mar 7, 2007
    Southwestern Ontario
    Very touching. I'm sorry for your loss.
  3. keto

    keto Gold Member

    May 23, 2006
    Nicely said. RIP Kenny.
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  4. Chito

    Chito Gold Member

    Feb 17, 2006
    Ottawa, Ontario
    Sorry to hear about your loss. RIP to your friend.
  5. marcos

    marcos Gold Member

    Jan 13, 2009
    So sorry for your loss. Beautiful hommage to your friend.
  6. leftysg


    Mar 29, 2008
    Guelph on a shelf
    Straight from the sorry for your loss, but thanks for sharing memories and emotions.
  7. greco

    greco Gold Member

    Jul 15, 2007
    Kitchener, Ontario
    You wrote beautifully about Kenny. In my opinion, having good friends is a big part of what life is all about. Your friendship and support for each other was wonderful.

    RIP Kenny

    Jared, take good care of yourself. Kenny would have wanted you to do that.
  8. Jimmy The Gent

    Jimmy The Gent Gold Member

    Sep 3, 2018
    Mississauga, ON
    A moving tribute. RIP Kenny.
  9. Hamstrung

    Hamstrung Gold Member

    Sep 21, 2007
    Waterloo, Ontario
    Tough to lose friends. Glad you were there for each other while you could be.
  10. silvertonebetty


    Jan 4, 2015
    Thanks everyone

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  11. Steadfastly


    Nov 13, 2008
    Minto, New Brunswick
    Sorry to hear of the loss of your good friend. As we go through life it is often amazing who we end up getting close to. It is sometimes a person you wouldn't think you would sync with at first. I hope you do see him again one day and without the oxygen tank.
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  12. butterknucket


    Feb 5, 2006
    Sorry for your loss.
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